If you appreciate your own quiet glow, other people will see it too."But introversion by definition isn't just about being social or antisocial; , describing someone with a strong ability to turn inward and concentrate on their own feelings.
And while Dembling says introverts may have a harder time meeting people to date, she maintains that "dating itself, however, is not hard for introverts because we tend to be most comfortable in one-on-one social interactions, where we don't have to compete for attention." In fact, being an introverts may actually have some unexpected advantages in the dating field. They simply don't gain energy from social interactions like extroverts do, which can make small talk feel"I think another misconception is that introverts would be dull dates," Dembling says.
Similarly, David thinks that "taking time, instead of rushing headlong into something" has benefitted his marriage to an extrovert.
Ultimately, Dembling says, "The best thing introverts can do for themselves is to respect and honor their own introversion, treating it as something of value, something to showcase on dates, rather than feeling like they need to put on an extroverted dog-and-pony show." It turns out introverts have plenty to offer any relationship much more important than first-date chitchat.
"Many of the introverts I spoke to tend to shut down in the face of conflict," Dembling says.
"It's not ideal, but nor is extroverts' tendency towards full-out shoot-from-the-hip emotion dump." While each couple needs to work out the best way for them to fight, some fights can benefit from this slower approach to an argument.
Too late to do anything with it, but, as he said, ' Nice to know.'" Moral of the story?Introverts attract more people than even they realize — it just might depend on the pursuer to take the first step.When it comes to dating, the introverts in relationships included in Dembling's research were pretty equally divided between dating other introverts or dating extroverts. "Either combination can work, depending on whether an introvert is looking for someone who will bring a social life to them, or someone who will hunker down at home with them."She was the center of attention wherever we went," Dembling says."I assumed nobody noticed introverted me, but years and years later, when I reunited with people from high school (thank you Internet), I learned that actually, many boys had noticed me.