Dark colors, leggings, heels, and the conspicuously absence of the Ugg boots and Denali jacket combo.Music to my eyes.• Restaurants: Again, this may be unfair to hold against American women, because the prevalence of fast food has prevented us colonials from knowing what good food really is (Italian food means endless breadsticks).Maybe it was Paris, maybe I became mature enough to chill out and go with the flow (probably not), or maybe it’s that she’s just a uniquely awesome girl (probably so), but also, maybe it’s just European women. So, okay, it could just be that I’ve stumbled my way into a relationship with a particularly amazing girl, and I think I have, but I’ve also noticed that European women are different than their American sisters across the pond.Untouched by hyper religious politics and America’s still lingering “frontier” cultural hangover, they seem more worldly and cosmopolitan.The cultural difference could be boiled down to this: my girlfriend is thankful for what she has, not frustrated she doesn’t have everything. After a few dates with a guy, you feel like this could lead to something, when suddenly he falls off the face of the earth.She wouldn’t be caught dead in line at Burger King, or Quick, depending on which continent she finds herself on.• Used to men who aren’t fit: When I first got to europe, after wrestling in high school and doing mixed martial arts in college, my forearms were larger than some European men’s thighs. Again, I grew up in the Midwest, where we’ve been raised to consider what the wedding will be like before we’ve even paid for dinner on our first date. This said, without having a looming religious culture surrounding their formative years, European women don’t seem to have so much shame surrounding their sexual feelings.At an al fresco dinner with my girlfriend one night we overheard a woman climax in some local apartment, caught in the height of passion. Later that night, caught in the grips of our own love-making we looked up out our apartment window into the courtyard of the building and saw across the way a small audience, peering out of their own windows, had gathered to watch.
I’m not saying American culture should roll back the clock, I’m saying that we should be aware that the previous waves of feminism came to give more freedom, not less of it. I think it would be ridiculous for anyone to place their value and identity entirely around a partner, whether that’s a man with a woman, or a woman with a man.For an American, dating a European woman offers some interesting advantages:• Sense of style: I grew up in the midwest, so until college I thought sweat pants were appropriate “going out” attire.Despite this, I’ve worked a bit in the fashion industry and feel that European women have a better handle on dressing than Americans.Meet for coffee or in a place where you can hear each other talk?If the date feels like a hook-up, that’s probably what he’s seeking.